Where do you want to go?
Is it creating a satisfying and lucrative career? Is it raising a family of self-sufficient kind- hearted people? Is it to become one of the richest people on the planet? Is it to walk the Himalayas? Is it to create balance in your life between work and family?
“If you don’t know where you are going, you will probably end up somewhere else.” Lawrence J. Peter
Where do you want to go?
Take a moment and think about where you want to go, because you can create wherever it is you want in your life!
You doubt what I am saying? Confidence in yourself and your abilities is the first step to getting where you want to go.
Do me a favor. Write down as fast you can all the things you want to create in your life – where you want to go. Don’t over think it.
Now, using your imagination, take in and experience what you want to create for yourself. How does it feel?
Now think about what is holding you back from getting there.
“One half of knowing what you want is knowing what you must give up before you get it.” Sidney Howard
One of the major reasons people don’t take the step to create what they really want is because it means everything that has become comfortable for them could change. There is the possibility that friends and family will not understand and, in some cases, will not support them. It may mean that the work will become more difficult. Perhaps it will require changing the place that they live. This may mean discovering that one needs to create a new environment for themselves, and as a result a whole new network of friends needs to be created. No small task for sure.
I have been in this situation myself. When I sold my first home in 1992 and decided to take on the entrepreneurial journey my parents thought I was nuts. They said I was making a bad decision. How could I quite my job to start a business and, of all things, base it upon the Internet? They said, “You are throwing away your future.”
Just thinking about it now reminds me how difficult it was to move forward with my own goals and objectives without the influence of the nay-sayers who mattered the most in my life. I just kept letting them know it would work out and that if it did not kill me I would grow stronger from it. That would be when my Mother would say, “That is if I don’t kill you first.”
Things changed one day, a day I will never forget. It took over three years for me to get my entrepreneurial feet under me, but when I did the press started taking notice. As a result I was a featured entrepreneur on the front page of the Silicon Valley Business Journal. There I was on the front cover being showcased as an Internet visionary. When my Mother received her first call from one of her friends that read the article she couldn’t believe it.
That was not the first call she received that day. In fact, it was one of a dozen. When she finally saw me that night she couldn’t have been more proud. “I knew you would make it, beating all the odds. I am so proud of you.” That is quite a different tone than I was receiving over the three years before the article.
Sometimes it takes someone else, other than those closest to you, to recognize the possibility of your hard work and effort. They understand the power of going for what you want even when the odds are stacked against you. You see, you have to stand strong and realize that most people are afraid of the unknown. They are fearful of those who are actually going for what it is they want despite all the odds against them
When you are going for what you want, you are, in a roundabout way, throwing it in the faces of those think you can’t. They are not going for what they want because of their fear of the unknown.
Don’t let this happen to you. Be strong, stand tall, and never ever give up.
“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.” Harriet Beecher Stowe
Where do you want to go?
Where ever you want to go you can get there if you are willing to work hard enough and put up with the nay-sayers along the way.
You can do it and I bet do can do it with style.
What are you waiting for?
Let me know what you think.
Until next week, remember the only boxes that exist are the ones you create yourself.
