The Power of Authenticity

Post on Wednesday, September 30th, 2009

There I was, sitting at a good friends dinner table enjoying a wonderful homemade Italian meal when the subject of what makes a person attracted to certain people came up. The discussion revolved around people that you can tell when they have an agenda or are out for themselves in some way. Many times you just can’t put your finger on it. Perhaps you can relate to this.

As the conversation continued we started discussing those people that we are attracted to, people that cause us to think more meaningfully not only about their message but our own lives. What we realized is that there are very few people out there truly engaging people to think more deeply about who they are and where they are going, at least on a meaningful and consistent level. Now, that is not to say that there are not a lot of people trying to come up with some method or “hook”to catch people’s attention. I bet you know, have met, or come in contact with more than one of these people.

So, what is it that attracts us to some people more than others?

Today, we live in world that is increasingly fabricated, manipulated, and made-up. The thing is that people are smarter than ever, and at some level know when they are being played and manipulated to do something that is not necessarily what they want, what they need to do, or that is in their best interest.

Could it be that authenticity is the thing that is missing most today?

Think about the last time you experienced someone authentic. Maybe you mistakenly thought the authenticness was not genuine, because how could someone be authentic today? They have to have an agenda or a “hook” deep down.

Authenticity is a rare thing today for sure. So many of us are trying to be something besides the person we truly are. We want to be what we think we should be or what others think we should be. This only takes us farther away from our authentic self and capturing the power authenticity.

“If you have integrity, nothing else matters.  If you don’t have integrity, nothing else matters.” Alan Simpson

People know when they meet an authentic person that there is something different and special about them. Sometimes they can’t put their finger on what it is exactly because they have experienced it so few times in their lives. What they are attracted to is the genuineness and honesty that rises to the top, something that is not easy to fake or manipulate. The openness of the conversation and the positive energy that is created can be intoxicating.

Why are there so few authentic people out there?

Perhaps it is our conformist programming that starts when we are young and takes over by the time we are adults. Conformity has helped us to survive and live longer lives which is a positive. It is a good idea to drive on the right-hand side of the road and pay your taxes. On the other hand, each of us has our unique God given talents and skills, the thing that makes us special. Conformity, in many cases, caps these talents and skills, because they might make us different and act in ways that, well, don’t conform.

“The most damaging phrase in the language is:  ‘It’s always been done that way.” Grace Hopper

Perhaps there are very few authentic people because we don’t like to think about things that cannot be packaged and easily understood. Abstract thinking is not easy to understand. We have to actually think and process information to start gaining clarity. We would rather have ideas and thoughts personalized or turned into heroes or villains we can point to such as Kennedy or Bin Laden. It is just easier than having to go through the transformational and life long process of becoming an authentic person.

“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.  If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened.  But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.” Friedrich Nietzsche

To be authentic one has to take the big step of looking inward before the ability to act outwardly has any true value. In our world of instant gratification and silver bullets no one really wants to do the work necessary to become authentic. This is why guru’s, coaches, and motivational speakers are growing at an ever-increasing pace.

Wake up! Only you can do it!

Now is the time to mobilize your innate-strengths and become your true self. Focus on being you, not someone else. Embrace the good and bad of who you are and start putting more focus on the good.

“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” e.e. cummings

You can do anything you want to do. One of the keys is to be yourself, let go, and get in touch with what makes you special. You can do it.

Authenticity is a rarity and your ability to tap the power of living an authentic life is one that will not only transform your life, but the lives of those around you. All you have to do is look inward rather than outward.

“To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.” e.e. cummings

What are you waiting for?

Let me know what you think.

Until next week, remember the only boxes that exist are the ones you create yourself.

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