Archive for November, 2008

Giving Away Your Love

Wednesday, November 26th, 2008

You know, my favorite gift is the gift of love. How about you?

Love warms me. It makes me tingle all over, inspires me, causes me to blush, gives me confidence, comforts me, and inevitably brings my total attention to that exact moment of wonder.

“Love has no desire but to fulfill itself.  To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.  To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving.” Kahlil Gibran

Love is such a powerful force in our lives. Love is what we desire the most and in many cases is what we receive the least of.

It is not hard to understand why, as humans, giving and receiving love is not one of our major focuses. This is the deal, love does not cost us any monetary resources and yet has the power to give and receive more than all of Fort Knox worth of returns.

“Let your love be like the misty rains, coming softly, but flooding the river.”

Malagasy Proverb

What holds us back from giving and receiving love on a regular basis?

One of my favorite ways to express my love for those people in my life is through hugging. I know your thinking right now, oh great a hug, isn’t that a bit girly for a man?

Whenever I feel a strong unconditional kind of love for someone I just can’t help myself, I have to hug them. This has gotten me into way more uncomfortable situations than one can count. The thing is that it is a very natural way for me to express love for people in my life.

Over time the people that I have shared this unconditional love with start to feel the love and will actually wonder why I am not hugging them whenever I see them and don’t hug them. Got to love that.

The pace of our lives is such that we don’t allow ourselves the time to slow it down and feel the love, much less share it.

“A bell is no bell ’til you ring it,
A song is no song ’til you sing it,
And love in your heart
wasn’t put there to stay. Love isn’t love
’til you give it away.”

Oscar Hammerstein, The Sound of Music

Nothing could be more important in your live than to share your love and give it away. You can do it!

Have any of you read about people giving away “free hugs” to anyone walking down the street. Their idea is that everyone could use a little love and hey, it doesn’t cost anything. What a great example of people wanting to give people the power of love and to complete strangers. You don’t have to be so extreme share your love.

This Thanksgiving muster the energy and intention of giving away your love to those you care about. Nothing could be more important or rewarding.

“Love is, above all, the gift of oneself.” Jean Anouilh

Let me know what you think.

Until next week, remember the only boxes that exist are the ones you create yourself.

Embracing Change

Monday, November 24th, 2008

Embracing change is one of the greatest challenges we face as humans. Change is accelerating at an ever increasing pace and if we do not learn to embrace, or at a minimum accept, the changes taking place globally we will in all likelihood wake up one day and say to ourselves, “Was I sleeping? How did we get so far behind?”

Many of us are so caught up in our own lives that we are blinded by the realities of what is taking place outside our daily activities. We get so focused on ourselves that we lose sight of the bigger picture. Because of this self-centered focus many of us are unable to see the changes going on outside ourselves, changes that can have direct or indirect influence on our lives.

Nothing stays the same and if we are going to be a relevant as a community we need to collectively wake up to our changing world and figure out how we can be a part of these changes.

Our challenge is not to forget how we got to where we are and remember that to be relevant we must continually reinvent ourselves. We cannot live life in a bubble thinking that we can remain the same.

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” Victor Frankl

When we think outside-of-the-box and look beyond what we know learning takes place and we increase our chances of being relevant players in our increasingly changing world.

Instant gratification is a growing phenomenon and it is preventing us from seeing how we contribute to a positive or negative future for the generations ahead.

Now more than ever the world needs for us to take a “long view,” a view that allows us to look toward the kind of future we want to create for our descendants. The decisions we are making today have the ability to create a positive impact on the future or our decisions have the ability to have a potentially negative impact.

When you allow your mind to imagine future scenarios as they connect to past events and current activities you will start to link and form new ideas and creative and innovative scenarios.

“Continuity gives us roots; change gives us branches, letting us stretch and grow and reach new heights.” Pauline R. Kezer

Today we need to be thinking about the future we are creating. This means that we will have to take calculated risks, think beyond our comfort zone, out-of-the-box, and collaborate with others.

With the pace of change accelerating and the desire for instant gratification growing, it becomes imperative to think out ahead into the future so we can make the best decisions today, decisions that will have a positive impact on the future.

When you are open to letting your imagination wander, enabling connections to be made, new and powerful solutions become possible.

We need to get serious about expanding and exercising our creativity as individuals and a nation. This means thinking differently about how we go about interacting, relating, and doing business with the world and ourselves.

“They must often change, who would be constant in happiness or wisdom.” Confucius

Let me know what you think.

Until next week, remember the only boxes that exist are the ones you create yourself.

Focusing on Possiblity

Sunday, November 9th, 2008

Now is the time to shift our thinking from “I can’t possibly make a difference,” to “I will be one of the people who will focus my energies on working purely and simply for the benefit of humankind so that we can change the course of history and move to a place of love and compassion for our community, city, state, nation, and the world.”

“The purpose of life is not to be happy – but to matter, to be productive, to be useful, to have it make some difference that you have lived at all.” Leo Rosten

Keeping the mind and heart focused on the possibility of what “can be” while remaining positive today can be a major uphill battle.

When the world gets me down, when the words of wise men and women drive a dagger in my heart, and when the actions of our leaders work for the few and not the whole, I do my best to look for the possibility of what “can be” and focus on the positive.

“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” Anne Frank

What you think about and imagine the most will be what you create in your life. When you think about and imagine what seems to be an impossible idea on a regular basis, you will have embarked on “the impossible dreaming journey,” and you will be one step closer to making the impossible, possible.

Dreaming what you perceive as impossible thoughts or dreams can lead you through new doors of perception and opportunity. It is important to remain open to different and unexpected thinking when embarking on the “impossible dreaming journey.”

It is only when we start to think and believe that our thoughts and dreams are not impossible, that they can become real, that they can become possible.

We are the only ones that can influence the changes necessary to turn the tide and redirect the flow of hope and compassion back into our reservoir, and to fill our hearts and those of the citizens of the world with the possibility of changing the course of history for the betterment of all.

“Act as if what you do makes a difference.  It does.” William James

Our challenge is to focus on the possibility of what “can be” while remaining positive through the challenges of change.

Let me know what you think.

Until next week, remember the only boxes that exist are the ones you create yourself.

Electing Out-of-the-Box Thinkers

Saturday, November 1st, 2008

When you think about out-of-the-box people, who do you think of? Richard Branson, Picasso, Salvador Dali, Chuck Barris, Frida Khalo, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, Benjamin Franklin, George Washington or, possibly Paul Revere.

People who think out-of-the-box see and open new possibilities. In many cases these are the leaders who challenge us and inspire us to think differently and rise up into action. It is hard to think of a more out-of-the-box bunch than America’s founding fathers. Let’s face it. They had to be to think they could take on England, the most powerful nation on earth in 1776. In our founding fathers’ day their out-of-the-box thinking revolved around a nation based upon liberty, justice, free speech, all men are created equal, the separation of church and state, the right to participate in the religion of your choice, the right to bear arms, and the ability to participate in deciding who represents you in our government. The idea of voting for who you want representing you is quite possibly one of our founding fathers greatest legacies.

Benjamin Franklin is one of the greatest examples of an out-of-the-box thinker I can think of. As an entrepreneur, author, inventor, publisher, philosopher, Casanova, and diplomat, Franklin was able to enroll France to support the founding fathers with much needed money and resources. This was no small task as no country wanted to get embroiled in the controversy of supporting an unrecognized band of out-of-the-box thinkers, fighting England, in an unchartered far away place.

Thomas Jefferson acted as architect of one of the most important vision and mission documents in the history of man, the Declaration of Independence.

George Washington risked it all to fight for freedom and liberty and then stepped up to the plate to become our newly born nation’s first President.

Their out-of-the-box thinking and risk taking has inspired and moved our nation for over 232 years. And much like England during the time of America’s birth, we became the most powerful nation on earth.

I hope our wisdom will grow with our power, and teach us, that the less we use our power the greater it will be.” Thomas Jefferson

I wonder what Ben Franklin would have to say about where we find our great nation at this point in history?

“Any society that would give up a little liberty to gain a little security will deserve neither and lose both.” Benjamin Franklin

As we look out over the landscape of our world today, we find ourselves at a crossroads in history. America has an opportunity to lead the world and show what is possible by uniting and leading by example. America is not its President, its Senators, its Congressmen, or its special interest groups. America is its citizens. We the people are able to choose who we want representing us by going out and voting.

How can we regain the “out-of-the-box” thinking that inspired the birth of our nation? Now more than ever we need to reach down deep and pull out the best we can be to take on the challenges of today and tomorrow. Why is it that we need to be hit by lightening bolts to wake up and face reality? Then after being awakened, over time, we have a tendency to get complacent, forget, and go back to our old patterns of living.

We cannot afford to fall back into our old patterns. We need to support new thinking from both our major political parties and all of the candidates. We can support new thinking by understanding the issues, where our candidates stand, and letting our voices be heard by voting.

“For having lived long, I have experienced many instances of being obliged, by better information or fuller consideration, to change opinions, even on important subjects, which I once thought right, but found to be otherwise.” Benjamin Franklin

You have the power to influence the next chapter of our great country and the world by voting for the best candidate to represent all of us. It is critical that we understand all of the candidates’ merits, faults, strengths, weaknesses, and vision for our future. This understanding will enable you to make the best possible decision when you go to the polls to vote.

As part of Ben Franklin’s legacy he has left us a powerful tool to support our ability to make informed decisions, the Pro-Con Chart, a thinking and decision making tool that is as viable today as it was when he was using it over 200 years ago. In fact, this is the same exercise Kristen and I used when we were making our big decision to move, or not to move, to Grand Lake way back when. Ben liked to use a Pro-Con Chart when the decisions he had to make were some of the most important he was about to make.

Here is how it works. At the top of a piece of paper put the candidates name centered on 1/2 the page then draw a line under each name. From the center of the paper draw a line down just under the name so you have two equal spaces to your left and right. At the top of the left under the name and line put the word Pro. On the right side under the name and line put the word Con. Then write down all the Pro and Con concepts you can come up with on why you would vote or not vote for this candidate. Next to each Pro and Con concept place a number from 1 –10, “10” being the most important and “1” being the least. Take your time and be realistic about your number rating. After attaching a number to each concept, add up the numbers on each side and total. These thoughts and figures will help you better understand your deeper thinking.

Put your candidate and their opponent to the Ben Franklin Pro-Con test! See if you are making the best choice you can be making.

I think that Ben would be proud. See you at the polling booths on November 4th.

Let me know what you think.

Until next week, remember that the only boxes that exist are the ones you create for yourself.